If your buddy didn't realize the spawns are awful then he's not that great, no offense.
How does preference relate anything to skill? Just because he might not notice or prefer the game the way it is has nothing to do with skill. He might be better than you for all we know... he just might not care as much as you.
No good player can possibly be ok with the spawns, that's all there is to it. The game randomly kills you, thanks to the spawns.
Remember when U2 was fun?
It still is.
So you say you still enjoy UC2 MP, I'm curious as to why/how. Between the unbalanced weapons and atrocious spawns, it's next to impossible for me to have fun with 1.05/1.06 UC2.