Ok, I found something that'll help you. Hit your start button and go into your navigator, go way over to the right to " options " and go down to " chat log " , then go into " chat channels " and then into " local " , ooops, then into " show " . Once your there there are 2 options " local text and local chat bubbles " . Just click on both of them and it will turn off all talking completely. not a peep in the room from anyone . Hope that helps but you really should give people a chance once you're done getting your game on. You can meet some wonderful people on home if you're lucky
If you're alone you'll also attract more attention than if you're with friends. I find they are less likey to bother you if you are in a group. I use two PS3's and have two avatars together quite freqently and I can tell you they bother me less when I'm with my other female AV than if I'm walking or hanging out by myself.
I have also been accused of being a lesbian however on numerous occassions when dancing with my alternate account simply because she is female and we don't give them any attention. It's really quite amusing at times. Keep in mind most of this is free entertainment.