First of all make sure you using the original USB cable that came with the playstation. Second reset your controller by inserting something small into the small hole at the back of the controller. Thirdly, you plug in the controller and press the ps button. Your controller should sync and ready to play wirelessly.
I have the same problem... I have plugged in the USB to the console and the controller and it didn't work. I let it charge overnight and still nothing. I cannot use my playstation with a controoler that won't work with the console.... the lights just blink ..... no other activity